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sexological bodywork

Sexological Bodywork is somatic, erotic education that assists individuals, couples and groups to deepen their experience of embodied intimacy and connection.

This is a holistic approach to experiential learning that consciously aim to access profound pleasure.

 

We are meeting the barriers to pleasure with curiosity, openness and respect for the reasons why they are there, so we bit by bit can move towards building bridgets to trust desire and sensations. 

My teaching involves a variety of instructive modalities, including breathwork, touch, massage, pelvic release bodywork, scar tissue remediation, selflove and compassion practices.

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Common Reasons People Come to Sexological Bodyworkers

  • Premature ejaculation

  • Lack of sexual desire

  • Difficulties in becoming aroused

  • Boundaries and consent training

  • Erectile difficulties

  • Inability to orgasm

  • Relief from pelvic pain

  • When sex is painful

  • Couples wanting to enhance their sex life

  • Learning to give and receive pleasure

  • Regaining sexual function and the ability to feel pleasure after birth or after surgery​

  • Understanding genitals, sexuality and transitioning

  • Accepting and loving one’s body, gender and sexuality

  • Understanding anal health and pleasure

  • Understanding vulva health and pleasure

  • Understanding genital and pelvic anatomy

  • Understanding sexual desire, genitals and gender transitioning

  • Wishing to learn how to give and accept sensuality and touch

  • Self-acceptance* of one’s own body and gender

  • Referred by a therapist, doctor, social worker, massage therapist 

  • Learning to accept and love sexuality*

* Some of these issues might need to be approached by other types of professional, next to or assisted by sexological bodywork.

There are many more topics and you are welcome to get in touch with me about anything. I will give you an honest answer if its something I can imagine to work with, or I might have an idea of where to find what you are searching for. 

What does a session look like

 

Every session is different depending on what topics come up and what is needed. We work with intimate topics and there is always time and space to change direction during a session.

 

Before we meet we have a short conversation over email or phone to settle what topics you would like to work with.

 

When we meet, we expand the conversation further, tune in to each other and re-clarify the topic. After settling on wishes, needs and boundaries, we decide together what practice will be useful for you.

 

The bodywork can take place on a massage table or a mat on the floor, or it can be exercises in the room. Since you are the expert of your body, you will be guiding the touch and the speed. I will be asking, communicating and suggesting options of touch, movement and breath. 

 

Verbal communication and consent exercises are important elements and you will have complete control over what happens throughout the session.

 

At the end of the session, we evaluate the experience and talk about what would be helpfull for you to continue working with.

 

Who is it for

 

Sexological Bodywork is for you who are interested in getting to know and develop your sexual life, with yourself and/or with other people. 

You might have mental or physical barriers that makes it difficult to be in contact with your erotic body.

You might feel great already and want to dive deeper to explore new levels of pleasure.

You might want to learn about different landscapes of sexuality and get inspiration with your partner(s).

Maybe you don’t quite know why, but you are curious and want to try it out.

All genders, sexualities, ages, bodies, and approaches are welcome!

Sexological Bodywork is for people who wish to have a fulfilling and enriching sex life, who regard sexuality as an on-going opportunity for learning and development, who take new directions in their sexuality and intimacy and expand their erotic potential.

 

I work with individuals, couples and groups.

 

Are we going to have sex?

Of course not.

 

The approach of the bodywork is educational and for your learning. The point is to allow your own experience, without thinking about expectations, performance, rituals and desires that are connected to having sex with another person.

 

You can wear as little or as much clothes as you want, and I will be fully dressed during the entire session. Touch is one-way, so I will be touching you if that is within our agreement, but you will not be touching me.

 

Sexological Bodywork is Somatic Sex Education

Sexological Bodyworkers teach through body experiences designed to nurture, deepen or awaken the sensual self. These experiences can include coaching in breath, movement, body awareness, boundary-setting, communication, anatomy, sensate focus, massage, erotic trance and other body-based teaching about sex. Uniquely in the professions, we are trained to do genital and anal touch for education, healing and pleasure. We touch in ways that assist students in developing presence within the body, opening interior awareness, and learning how the body can feel more and more alive.

Sexological Bodywork  is a wonderful way to address all kinds of sexual challenges, ranging from premature ejaculation to not being able to orgasm readily. Couples can learn to navigate sexual differences and explore new erotic possibilities with body-based learning and guided practice.

The experiential learning opportunities available through Sexological Bodywork can help you engage in a respectful dialogue with your autonomic nervous system, so that physical and emotional processes that usually happen to us can be held in mindful awareness, and transformed. Love and fear, excitement and relaxation, arousal and happiness, reverence and bliss all have biochemical and physiological components that can be regulated, with training and conscious practice over time.

We all set limits on the quantity and quality of pleasure we can embody. Limits to pleasure are ubiquitous in a culture that shames sexuality and fails to teach us how to honor and celebrate erotic energy. Sexual wounding becomes embedded in the body’s tissues and responses. Sexological Bodywork can assist you in expanding the pleasure that is possible. This expansion has physical, emotional, mental and spiritual components.

Thank you to Sexological Bodyworker Caffyn Jesse for her contribution to this description. 

 

 

On the history of Sexological Bodywork

Sexological Bodywork was developed in California by Dr Josef Kramer and is, in its origins, a method combining Taoist and tantric bodywork and resource-focused coaching. Clients learn to use their strengths and to integrate them into their lives. Kramer developed these methods in order to enable homosexual men to live fulfilling sensual lives against the backdrop of AIDS concerns in the 1980s. Previously, the method was called Body Electric School and Taoist Erotic Massage. Together with Annie Sprinkle, a leading figure on women’s sexual liberation, Sexological Bodywork was expanded further. Today, professional training in Sexological Bodywork takes place in the US, UK, Australia, Switzerland and Berlin at the International Institute for Sexological Bodywork IISB®. Sexological Bodywork is a profession recognized in the State of California. The training is continually updated to incorporate new insights.

Teachers I have had the pleasure of learning from in this training

Deej Juventin has, CSB MA has over 20 years experience in adult education, teacher training, embodied counselling and various forms of bodywork. He was the founding president of the Somatic Sex Educators’ Association of Australasia, and is a co-director of the Institute of Somatic Sexology. He was awarded Somatic Sex Educator of the Year for 2016 at the Sexual Freedom Awards in London.

 

Uma Ayelet Furman, CSB is one of Australasia’s leading somatic sex educators, with many years of experience working with individuals, people in relationships, and groups. Uma has innovated somatic sex education through her grounded breaking work in client-centred practice.


 

Dr. Martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 30 years. First as a Chiropractor, and later as a Body Electric School trained Sacred Intimate, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, and Foundations of Facilitation trainer. Therapeutic training includes Chiropractic, Somato-Respiratory Integration, Educational Kinesiology, Reiki, Neuro-Emotional Integration. In more recent years, her erotic education has included included sensual massage, Taoist Erotic Massage, Kashmiri tantric massage and Sexological Bodywork.

 

Ellen Heed has spent over 10,000 hours as a bodyworker and nutritional consultant, and holds certifications as a Sexological Bodyworker, Shiatsu Specialist, Craniosacral Therapist, and Facia Manipulation Specialist. She is an international teacher of human anatomy and a yoga teacher.

 

Joseph Kramer, Ph.D., is the foremost teacher of erotic bodywork in the world. In 1984, he founded the Body Electric School in Oakland, California, where he trained thousands of professional massage therapists, erotic bodyworkers and somatic educators. 

 

Nino Mar Seliz is a somatic systemic counselor and therapist, coach, somatic (sexual) educator, workshop leader and teacher for the method Sexological Bodywork.

 

Mareen Scholl: https://enter-space.net

 

Barbara Carrellas is the founder of Urban Tantra® an approach to sacred sexuality that adapts and blends a wide variety of conscious sexuality practices from Tantra to BDSM—and the Urban Tantra® Professional Training Program—a comprehensive training program in the practice and application of conscious sexuality.